Bullying Resources for Parents
Bullying is when someone intentionally does or says something to hurt another person. Often, this behaviour is repetitive and deliberate.
Get informed on the types of bullying and learn the stop bullying tips for parents. Also share the bullying resources for youth (Website. New window.) with your kids, to empower them to help stop bullying.
Types of bullying: myths and facts
Myth: It is only considered bullying if someone pushes or assaults you
Fact: Bullying can take many forms such as:
- Physical Bullying: Hitting, slapping, shoving, tripping, spitting, throwing objects, blocking someone’s path; damaging, stealing, or withholding someone’s property
- Verbal Bullying: Insults, teasing, racism, threats, hurtful jokes
- Social Bullying: Excluding someone from an activity or group, ignoring someone, talking bad behind someone’s back, spreading rumours
- Cyberbullying: Using technology such as cell phones and the internet to blackmail, threaten, intimidate, insult, spread rumours, and post private/humiliating images and videos. Learn more about .
Myth: Bullying only happens at school
Fact: Bullying can occur anywhere children interact with one another. Bullying can occur in your own home while your child is on the computer. According to cyberbullying.org, a recent study has suggested that 99 percent of Canadian students have used the Internet and approximately 48 percent of Canadian students use it for at least 1 hour per day.
Myth: Bullying is a normal part of growing up
Fact: Bullying can have serious consequences, whether you are the victim, bully or bystander. These consequences can include
- emotional distress,
- substance abuse, and in extreme cases,
- suicide or engagement in criminal behaviour.
According to The Canadian Children’s Right Council, 1 out of 4 elementary school bullies have a criminal record by age 30.
How you can prevent bullying
- Be a good role model and teach your children about respecting others regardless of their race, cultural/religious background, gender or ability. Bullying often includes behaviour that is socially learned.
- Check in regularly with your children whether it is at dinner or while driving to or from school. The most vulnerable years include transition from elementary to secondary school.
- Be aware of who your children are friends with and what they are doing online. Try to keep the computer in common areas so online activities can be monitored.
- Educate your children on the different forms of bullying and the consequences prior to it actually happening. Remind your children that they are part of the problem if they witness someone being bullied and do not say or do anything about it.
- Spend time with your children to help foster a trusting relationship. If your children trust you and know they have your support, it will be that much easier for them to talk to you when they have a problem.
- Keep in contact with other parents and school staff to stay informed on what is going on for your child.
- Encourage your son or daughter to join groups or clubs that can boost confidence and self-esteem and offer opportunities to strengthen peer relationships and form friendships. See the list recreational activities and programs in Surrey to find one that interests them.